Last updated: October 18th, 2019
Experiencing strong negative emotions is a completely natural part of life. It’s absolutely normal for you to feel upset, unsettled and even downright angry for hours or even days at a time.
Life gets extremely tough for all of us, and scary problems are inevitably going to happen regardless of your unique journey.
You are not alone in feeling like it’s the end of the road. We have all been there before.
However, when you recognize that negative emotions are starting to build up inside of you, you have to remember three important facts of life:
1.) There is a healthy way to handle your negative emotions
2.) There is an unhealthy way to handle negative emotions
3.) You have complete control over your negative emotions
In this article, I’m going to explain how you can confront your negative emotions – and even make the most of them…
A short list of negative emotions
Before you can learn how to deal with negative emotions, you have to understand which emotions are considered “negative” in the first place.
Here is a small list of negative emotions that you have to stay aware of:
Of course, there are more negative emotions than just the few on this short list. But, these are the negative emotions that I personally like to stay aware of.
How not to handle your negative emotions (weak emotional control)
Let’s imagine for a moment that you find out you’re going to be late on your credit card payment for the month. Maybe you’re even experiencing some serious financial troubles. It’s normal to immediately feel like your life is going to be over. Maybe you feel anxious, worried and scared. You might even feel like you’re a victim in this situation.
These are all perfectly normal reactions to have.
However, there comes a point where you have to cut off your negative emotions from impacting your ability to take action and resolve problems.
If you continue to bask in your negative emotions and feel sorry for yourself, you might not ever find the opportunity to actually pay off your credit card bill. You will instead be too busy allowing your negative emotions to control how you live your life.
This is how you absolutely should not handle your negative emotions.
How you should handle your negative emotions (strong emotional control)
Using the credit card payment example from above, let’s again imagine that you’re going to be late on making your credit card payment for the month.
You suddenly feel worried, anxious and scared. Maybe you’re even terrified of the consequences that your late payment will have on your credit score. You might allow half an hour or maybe even a few hours to soak in these negative emotions, since it very well may make you feel better afterwards.
However, this time, something changes in you. You suddenly say to yourself, “OK, enough is enough. I have complete control over my negative emotions, and today will be different. I will find a way to fix this problem.”
This is called having an affirmation.
Handling your thoughts and feelings by repeating an affirmation to yourself is a great way to take control over your negative emotions and your life as a whole. Once you’ve dedicated some time to accept and feel your negative emotions, you can then ultimately cut them off for good.
Basking in your negative emotions for too long will not help you in the long-run. You ultimately have to take control of your mind at some point by using an affirmation like, “I am in full control and today is an amazing day to be alive” or any other unique phrase that you happen to come up with.
By repeating your affirmation whenever you want to rid yourself of negative emotions, you will retain power over your negative thoughts and feelings.
Something else that may help you is putting your problems in perspective. For example, if you think that your problems are difficult, keep in mind that there is always going to be someone who is experiencing significantly worse problems than you can even imagine.
Between disease, death and even more horrific things that billions of human beings are suffering through – putting your own problems in perspective will help you realize that your life probably isn’t so bad after all.
How to block out negative emotions for good (advanced emotional control)
While negative emotions are a healthy and natural reaction to the most unpleasant aspects of life, they can oftentimes be extremely inconvenient.
Sometimes, you simply don’t want to have your entire evening ruined simply because someone made a rude or inconsiderate comment to you.
So, to block out negative emotions from happening in the first place, you must visualize having a successful day or night out. You have to take a few minutes to really imagine yourself laughing, dancing and loving other people. Better yet, you might even combine this visualization exercise with an affirmation such as, “Today, I get to decide that I’m going to have the best day of my life.”
Either way, you should immediately start to practice this exercise of visualizing your perfect day while also repeating a positive affirmation to yourself.
Do this as often as you’d like, and it will completely change how you experience the world.
You should now understand that you’re going to experience a lot of bad emotions throughout your lifetime. And that’s perfectly okay.
But, knowing how you will handle your negative emotions ahead of time is one of the most important decisions that you can make.
You can ultimately choose to bask in negative thoughts and feelings for unhealthy amounts of time. Or, you can decide to seize power over your negative thoughts, feelings and emotions – and cut them off once and for all. It’s totally up to you to decide.
However, if you happen to decide that you are willing to regularly visualize and affirm having the best day of your life, then you’ll also begin to understand just how much control you truly have over your negative emotions.
You will soon realize that you are the only person on this planet who gets to determine how you feel.